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  • 6 Resolutions I’m Making for the Liturgical New Year

    6 Resolutions I’m Making for the Liturgical New Year

    A couple of years ago, a friend told me that she and her partner were hosting a Liturgical New Year’s party on the Saturday night leading into the first Sunday of Advent. Fan of New Year’s energy and keeper of the liturgical year that I am, hearing about this party delighted me to no end. 

    What a fun way to celebrate an important communal transition from one liturgical year to the next, which happens with the commencement of Advent, the season representing the time in history before Christ was known to humans. During Advent, we anticipate and prepare for God entering this world through the person of Jesus, whose life we then follow throughout the rest of the liturgical year. 

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    I didn’t go to the party (heck, I wasn’t even invited, given that we live on opposite sides of the country!), but imagining my friends’ festive gathering planted the seed in me to mark the onset of a new liturgical year more intentionally. 

    Cue: liturgical New Year’s resolutions. 

    Now, it doesn’t take ordination to know that the self-improvement-new-year-new-me energy of January 1 isn’t a part of the liturgical new year vibe, which has much more to do with organizing the Scriptural readings, feast days, and seasons of the Church than it does with any individual’s agenda or goals. 

    That said, as the liturgical year walks us through the mystery of Christ, it also, according to the USCCB, “calls us to live his mystery in our own lives.” It makes sense to me, then, to make the liturgical year personal as well as communal, and to use this special time as an opportunity to think about the ways that I might strengthen, grow, and deepen my faith in the year ahead. 

    If this thought resonates with you, here are some ideas for liturgical New Year’s resolutions:

    Read a spiritual classic

    We have so much to gain from the saints who have gone before us, and one way to take in their wisdom is by reading their works. However, because books like “Dark Night of The Soul” and “The Confessions” are a heavier mental lift than your average beach read, it might take a resolution to make reading them actually happen. For instance, I had to psych myself up to read St. Teresa of Avila’s “Interior Castle” a couple of years ago, but I’m so glad that I did, as the book played (and continues to play) an influential role in my spiritual development. 

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    Commit to going on a retreat or pilgrimage

    If going on a retreat or pilgrimage is something that you’ve long considered doing, make this year the year! 2025 is a Catholic jubilee year with the theme “Pilgrims of Hope;” if you have the time and the means, you might consider joining Catholics from all over the world as they make pilgrimages to Rome and other holy sites of significance. Check in with your local diocese to see if they have jubilee celebrations planned, or go your own way by planning to spend a day in prayer and rest at a place that nourishes your soul, like a state park or cathedral in your city. 

    Focus on a particular commandment

    Maybe you’ve noticed an area of thinking or behavior that has been a struggle for you lately – a tendency to tell white lies, or a pattern of using Sundays to catch up on your work email, for instance. Consider the commandment with which your habits most clash, and decide to go all-in on that commandment this year. Read about it, pray about it, talk to a spiritual director or trusted friend about it, and reflect on how you can better live out the commandment in your life. 

    Pick a patron saint for the year

    If you are looking for more of a vibe than a specific goal or two, choosing a patron saint for the year can help you get there. For instance, St. Monica is the patron saint of mothers, so if you are interested in deepening your role as a parent, son, or daughter, she might be a good choice. As part of this resolution, you can learn about your saint, pray to them for intercession, and consider practical ways that you can integrate their example into your life. Check out this extensive patron saint list to get started. 

    I’m thinking of choosing St. Dymphna, the patron saint of therapists, as my saint for the year, as I’m not only hoping to grow in my knowledge and skill as a psychotherapist this year, but am also planning to take my clinical licensure exam and will take all the help I can get in the process! 

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    Perform the Corporal Works of Mercy

    You can’t go wrong with a resolution that positions you to imitate the ways of Jesus. Choose one or more of the Corporal Works of Mercy – feed the hungry, give drink to the thirsty, shelter the homeless, visit the sick, visit the prisoners, bury the dead, give alms to the poor – to devote some of your time to in the year ahead. 

    Lean into Advent

    There’s a trope that most New Year’s resolutions are abandoned by February 1, and if you get the sense that this might be the case for you, it’s fine to let go of making a resolution for the whole liturgical year and instead focus on the season ahead. Consider how you can fill the four weeks of Advent with expectant waiting, hopeful anticipation, and joyful preparation – perhaps by attending Advent vespers at your parish, reading an Advent devotional daily, or volunteering at a local soup kitchen. 

    There’s a saying that fruit grows where you plant and water seeds. As we transition from one liturgical year to the next, take time to nourish the seeds of your spiritual life. Intentionality about setting goals is a good place to start. 

  • 5 Prayers for Your Thanksgiving Feast

    5 Prayers for Your Thanksgiving Feast

    Leading people in prayer is an art. Carving turkey is an art. Baking marshmallows atop sweet potatoes is an art. It is also delicious.

    For now, I’ll limit myself to the art of prayer, namely that hallowed Thanksgiving Prayer offered by a head of the family, or a person perceived to be religious, or the first person to ask if we’re going to pray first. If experience has taught you to anticipate that this will almost definitely be you, I humbly submit the following Thanksgiving prayers.

    The Tweetable

    Sometimes brevity is the priority, particularly if the meal is being served later than anticipated. Or if you sense animosity growing over the potatoes getting cold.

    Lord, we gather today to offer Thanksgiving,

    to remember your gifts, to give thanks for living.

    We demand no wealth, no fame, no worldly success,

    just this food, this family [these friends], in your goodness to bless. Amen.

    All the Fixin’s

    I suppose the “meat” of a Thanksgiving prayer is the simple expression of gratitude, which means the prayer can be short and locally oriented. However, there’s something to be said for naming specific things and people. In the spirit of Catholic Social Teaching, Thanksgiving is a great occasion to include in our prayer individuals who are not immediately in front of us, but for whom we could not enjoy the meal without.

    Lord God, we thank you for the gift of this day, the gift of one another,

    and the gift of this food which you have provided from your bounty.

    As we prepare to celebrate this Thanksgiving feast,

    we ask for your blessing upon us and upon all of the gifts that fill our table.

    Bless also the farmers and laborers who cultivate the land, and provide

    the meat and vegetables we are so fortunate to enjoy.

    Bless the grocers and market workers, clerks and store owners.

    May all those who have labored for this food be treated with the dignity of children of God,

    and may they be paid a just wage.
    As we give you thanks, O Lord, we ask that you nourish us,

    that we might be good stewards of the earth, keepers of one another,

    and prophets of your coming Kingdom.

    We ask this through Christ, Our Lord. Amen.

    The Historian

    In my intro to liturgy class at seminary, our professor taught us to formulate prayers in a “You Who … Do” format. You recall what God has done and ask him to do it again. One wouldn’t think this could work for modern things like cars and iPads, but trust me, the Catholic Book of Blessings finds a way. So shall we … with turkey.

    O God of loving kindness,

    You created the birds of the air, the fish of the sea,

    and all the creatures who dwell on the land.

    You set humankind to have dominion over the animals,

    to assist us in our labors, and sustain us in our living.

    Since the earliest days of this Thanksgiving feast,

    the turkey has been a sign of your goodness and the bountiful love

    with which you nourish us without ceasing.                                                           

    We ask you then, to send your blessing upon this turkey, upon all of our food,

    and upon all of us who are nourished by it, even as we remember those who this day go without.

    We ask this through Christ Our Lord. Amen.

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    Thanksgiving for One

    It may be that you’re spending this Thanksgiving alone. It may be that you have spent other Thanksgivings alone, by choice, or by circumstance. Whatever the reason, God is with you, loves you, and is thankful for the gift of your life.

    O God, you search me and you know me.

    You know my heart, my mind, my life.

    I give you thanks for the many blessings you give me

    and all of the ways you walk with me each day.

    I ask for your blessing upon this food,

    and upon all those who brought it to this table.

    May you continue to nourish and strengthen me,

    so that all that I am, and all that I will be,

    I may offer as a gift to you.

    Through Christ, Our Lord. Amen.

    Tweetable II: The Sequel

    (I won’t be offended if you didn’t like my first one. It’s fine. Maybe you’ll like this one better.)

    For food to nourish and warm our bodies.

    For loved ones to share in sorrow and joy.

    For time, for mercy, for newness, for-giving.

    For life in Your Kingdom,

    We give thanks, O Lord.

    Amen.

     

    Originally published Nov. 25, 2019

  • The Generosity of Less: Learning From St. Clare This Advent

    The Generosity of Less: Learning From St. Clare This Advent

    st clare statue as she is holding a lamp with a white background

    “Look closely, I say, to the beginning of the life of this admired one, indeed at the poverty of him who was wrapped in swaddling clothes and placed in a manger. O marvelous humility! O astonishing poverty! The King of the angels, the Lord of heaven and earth is laid to rest in a manger!” – St. Clare of Assisi, Fourth Letter to Agnes

    Two years ago, I was received into full communion with the Catholic Church as Advent began. I chose St. Clare as my confirmation saint for reasons that were largely intuitive at the time because of my previous community service experiences with Franciscans. Having gained more perspective since then as both a new Catholic and a young parent, I’ve found Clare’s devotion to simplicity particularly fitting to keep in mind as we approach the season of giving and gratitude. 

    Our culture often romanticizes generosity around the holidays by doing too much of everything. With small children, I am often confronted with temptations to maximize every moment, develop new traditions, and create picture-perfect memories. Instead, by embracing St. Clare’s example, I’m able to reconsider how to live generously in ways that are truer to the spirit of my faith’s humble Christian origins.

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    Clare knew these origins well; she contemplated them in solitude and encouraged others to do the same whenever she could. As I have grown in my faith the past two years, I have tried to learn more about Clare in order to discover how to integrate her example into my own life. Her original writings shed light on her devotion to Christ, while others have also written eloquently about her. In one of St. Pope John Paul II’s letters to the Poor Clares, the Franciscan order of nuns that St. Clare founded, he describes her as having a “spirit of poverty” that “emptie[d] her of everything but the simplicity of a gaze fixed on God.” 

    It can be hard to imagine that kind of austere intensity in our current environment. Particularly as we hope to begin to emerge from these dreadful pandemic days, it is far too tempting to make up for lost time in an excess of abundance: more commitments, more gifts, more time away from home. I have had to renew my focus by sticking closely to pre-planned lists and resisting the urge to feel pressured to match everyone else in material generosity. While even the Poor Clares made exceptions for Christmas and other feast days in their otherwise strict observances, their charism is a helpful reminder when we find ourselves biting off more than we can chew by the time we move into December. 

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    How did Clare keep her gaze on what she saw as the only thing that truly mattered? By never looking away from where the Christian faith began. In her writings, she frequently discussed the Christ Child and Mother Mary. In them, she saw the heart of the Christian life that could best be nurtured through constant prayer and focus, ultimately hoping to become a “mirror” that reflects “eternity.” Both her Rule and Testament and her letters to Agnes demonstrate an unwavering focus that enabled her to use her time as effectively and efficiently as possible. Because of this single-mindedness, the Poor Clares were able to serve their community far more than we might naturally assume. Clare’s physical separation from the outside world did not prevent her from helping those in need; instead, by seeing her vocation as a gift, she was able to offer herself as a gift to others in a fully authentic way through prayers and even healing. Most famously, her devotion to the Blessed Sacrament once saved her Sisters from an invading army. 

    These insights into Clare’s life again bring us back to Mary, our Mother — a fitting focal point as Advent approaches. Mary knew well what it meant to empty herself for the sake of Jesus and, ultimately, for the world. Through Clare’s example, I am humbled by the reminder that the spirit of Advent can serve as a sort of ongoing spiritual compass for our entire lives as Christians, looking to Our Mother and the Son of God and their patient endurance as constant models for how to grow ever more consumed by their guiding light.  

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    And so now, we prepare to wait also for Christ. We gaze upon his face as Clare did, awestruck as ever that God chose to become man. What better time to be reminded that that is all that ever matters? As we approach the season of waiting and giving, we can keep these truths in mind to guide our hearts toward generosity. We can let go of the impulse to do too much and forgive those who do not know how to do otherwise. When relatives give my young children far too many presents, I can try to see the grace that’s intended instead of allowing myself to feel weighed down with the constant pull of stuff. I can make an effort to bake cookies for gifts and write my thank you notes before Valentine’s Day, grateful for the chance to return the love I have received. In all things, we can seek Clare’s “holy simplicity” wherever we go.

    Originally published November 11, 2021.

  • Busted Halo’s 2024 Advent Calendar

    Busted Halo’s 2024 Advent Calendar

  • On Signs From God: Contemplating How God Reveals Himself to Me

    On Signs From God: Contemplating How God Reveals Himself to Me

    Person walking on road with a sign on the ground pointing in two different directions.

    God and I have a running inside joke. It started two years ago, when I read another Busted Halo article about discernment. The author wrote that when a friend of his was faced with a big decision, she would ask God to see a dog — specifically a Dalmatian — to confirm that she was making the right choice.

    As the author explains in the article, relying on signs from God is not the best tool for discernment. God is not a fortune teller and often, the signs we perceive tell us more about ourselves and what we want than God’s will. At the same time, God can speak to us through the physical world in the ways we need it most. 

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    At the time I came across this article, I was starved for affirmation from God. I had a job that brought me little fulfillment, a lengthy commute that drained my energy, and a profound yearning for community and friendship. I wasn’t facing any monumental decisions, but I wanted God to give me a sign that I was moving in the right direction, even if it didn’t feel that way. I don’t know if it was right or wrong to ask this of God, but a few days later, as I was driving home from work, I saw a woman crossing the street walking two spotted dogs on her leash — Dalmatians.

    While this might seem like a direct sign from the divine, it felt more like a playful elbow nudge from the Lord. Seeing those Dalmatians, I perceived a fatherly imperative and promise from God: Lighten up, it’s ok, I’m here. 

    In the following months, I didn’t ask to see another Dalmatian, but every so often I would cross paths with one, the dogs’ striking coats filling me with an inner warmth as they assured me of God’s presence. Seeing the Dalmatians was not a coincidence nor was it a command — it simply allowed God to reach out to me in a way he knew I would recognize.

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    Then there came a time when I was faced with a decision. I had two job offers to discern between, and the similarities in both their roles and workplaces made the choice extremely difficult. Since they were both at local universities, I decided to drive to each one and walk around the campuses, reflect on the offers, and attempt to determine where my soul was pulled. 

    I went on my quest on an icy Saturday in the middle of winter, muted gray clouds casting shadows over the traffic on the expressway. As I took the exit ramp to the first campus, I noticed that the car ahead of me had its windows down, which seemed like an odd choice for such a frigid day. As we curved down the ramp, the head of a Dalmatian emerged from the passenger window, the dog’s ears flapping in the brisk wind. My heartbeat accelerated as I accepted God’s squeeze on my shoulder and thanked him for staying by my side as I made my decision.

    Looking back, I don’t know if that Dalmatian was an indication that the campus I was heading towards was where I belonged, or just a gentle reminder that God would be with me wherever I went. Regardless, I know that it was not by chance that I was driving behind that car or that the dog needed fresh air — God knows what will speak to us the most in the moment that we need to hear him. 

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    I don’t think that discernment and decision-making should rely solely on perceived signs from God, but I also have faith that God finds unique ways to reveal himself to us. A stranger who holds open the door when our arms are full, a stoplight that turns green right when we approach — it is all laden with meaning whether or not we choose to extract it. 

    If we trust that everything we encounter has the ability to connect us back to God, moments of mundanity can become beautiful and coincidences can transform into assurances that he is watching over us. When I see a Dalmatian, it is like receiving a handwritten note from God, a little inside joke to lift my spirits and fill me with his presence. God always knows what will affirm his love for me, even if it comes in the form of a spotted dog.

  • Busted Halo’s Ultimate Catholic Gift Guide: 2024 Edition

    Busted Halo’s Ultimate Catholic Gift Guide: 2024 Edition

    The holiday season is here, and it’s time to spread some joy and faith-filled cheer! At Busted Halo, we’ve once again done the hard work for you by gathering the most delightful Catholic-inspired gifts of the year. Whether you’re shopping for family, friends, or looking to add a special something to your own wish list, our hand-picked selection is sure to please. Be sure to browse our past gift guides from 2023, 2022, and 2021 for even more great ideas!

    ‘Jesus the Good Shepherd’ Wooden Playset by Shining Light Dolls

    For the little lambs

    It’s never too early to introduce kids to the Rosary, and Chews Life’s Baby Teething Rosary is sure to soothe any dental or spiritual aches of the littlest saints-in-the-making. For the slightly older kiddos, Be a Heart’s DIY Rosary Making Kit is a great way to teach this important devotion. If you know of any little ones getting ready to join the Church, help them prepare with a Baptism Gift Set or keep them cozy with this handmade Saints Quilt. Want something that will keep your kids entertained while also encouraging their faith? Check out these Catholic Wood Block Sets from Shining Light Dolls or get them a doll version of Luce, the Vatican’s newest mascot, in preparation for the 2025 Jubilee!

    Fun for the family

    Looking to add more spiritual elements to your home? Catholic Family Crate offers this art collection bundle of 50 different prints to inspire your family. Each features artwork on the front, and a devotion or additional background information on the back. (Special bonus: Catholic Family Crate is offering Busted Halo readers 20% off their purchase with the code BUSTEDHALO24). For a more interactive gift, you can also try this Iconography jumble sheet or this “Read me When” jar of Bible verses to use when you’re in need of a faith-filled pick-me-up. If you’re looking for more creative ways to pray for your loved ones throughout the year, pick up these “Praying for You” greeting cards, or design your own prayer with a personalized prayer card!

    Habenero Hot Sauce by Monks

    For the faithful foodies

    For the discerning foodies in your life, why not get them treats made by men or women religious? Whether you opt for delicious cheesecakes baked by The Nuns of New Skete, Monks’ Bread by the Trappist monks of The Abbey of the Genesee, or hot sauce by monks of Subiaco Abbey, these gifts are sure to nourish both stomach and soul. For the Catholic caffeine addicts, try some of this Humble Habits coffee roasted by the monks at Holy Resurrection Monastery, which you can serve in this Saint “emergency contacts” mug!

    For the nostalgic

    Want to help someone unleash their inner child this Christmas? Your loved one might like an advanced Lego set like this Poinsettia bouquet! (After all, poinsettias are rich with Christian symbolism — the leaves represent the star of Bethlehem, the red leaves serve as a reminder of the blood of Christ, while the white leaves reflect Jesus’ purity). If you’re looking to introduce the younger generation to some true Christian classics, VeggieTales is offering this 25th-anniversary DVD collection.

    For the bibliophiles

    Need ideas for devoted readers? “The Mystics Would Like a Word” by Shannon K. Evans tells the story of six powerful mystic women like Teresa of Ávila and Thérèse of Lisieux. To learn more about nearly 400 iconic figures in the Church, check out Gary Jansen’s “Saints, Angels & Demons.” For those looking to learn more about the way God works through us, try Richard Leonard, SJ’s newest release, “Why God?” And for a unique take on Dorothy Day’s legacy,  this graphic novel tells the story her impact on the Church and peace and justice movements through stunning illustrations. To accompany these stimulating reads, get your favorite bookworm their own watercolor saint bookmark!

    For those looking to level up their faith

    Looking for a faith-inspired gift for the gamer in your life? Try Catholic games like Wanderlight or the trading card game, Redemption! If games aren’t what you’re looking for, these Saint Sprites hoodies and stickers are great for incorporating faith into gaming. Speaking of stickers, check out these Let Us Play stickers from our very own Fr. Evan that would look great decorating any gaming system – and be sure to check out his Twitch stream.

    For the Marys and Ruths

    ‘Mom Saints’ Print by LightBearer Designs

    For the devoted women in your life, these Qui Minimo Scapulars or Alta Gracia Pearl Rosary Bracelet are the perfect jewelry options. For another way to accessorize, Brick House in the City’s Catholic Satin Scarf or this Be Still and Know Tote from Share the Good News Co. are great for incorporating faith on-the-go. For the woman who does it all, pick up this Blessed is She planner to keep all her thoughts and plans organized throughout the liturgical year. And this Mom Saints watercolor print will serve as a reminder of the holy Catholic mothers she can look to for support.

    For the Matthews and Marks

    If you’ve know a gentleman in need of some faithful apparel, these AMDG crew socks from Ascension Press are sure to keep them cozy. For some more casual swag, check out this In the Shadows t-shirt from God’s Love Overcomes. If your husband, dad, brother, or friend is more into formalwear, these Catholic lapel pins from Sisters of Carmel are sure to please any dapper gent. For the man on the go, these leather toiletry kits, formed with prayer and care by OreMoose are the perfect mix of classy and useful. And for all the fathers out there, this Dad Saints watercolor print is sure to inspire!

    Ceramic Wall Altar by Be a Heart

    For the humble abode

    Know someone who loves to add prayerful touches to their home decor? This Kelly Latimore Icons 2025 Calendar is the perfect way to stay organized while meditating on where Christ might be present in our own backyards. For friends and family looking for decorations with saintly inspiration, these Letters to the Lord Calligraphy Prints are great to hang around the house. If you know someone looking to set up a designated prayer space, check out this Ceramic Wall Altar. Have someone in your life that loves the smell of church? Get them this Chrism Room Spray! Participate in an annual ornament exchange? This Nativity Ornament is the perfect way to remind people of the true spirit of the season.

    For those looking to give back

    If you’re looking to share the Christmas spirit in a meaningful way this season, consider donating to organizations like Palestine aid via Catholic Relief Services in the name of your friend or loved one. You can also make a child’s Christmas special by sending a Box of Joy via Cross Catholic Outreach. To support others who don’t have access to a Christmas feast, consider donating to God’s Love We Deliver Meal Service.

    From all of us here at Busted Halo, we hope you have a Merry Christmas with your loved ones!

  • 2024 InstaAdvent Photo Challenge

    2024 InstaAdvent Photo Challenge

    Our InstaAdvent Photo Challenge is back! Advent is a time of anticipation and waiting for the birth of Jesus. There’s so much wonder and love in the air! So, join us in Busted Halo’s InstaAdvent Photo Challenge! Post a photo every day during Advent and stay connected to the hope, joy, and occasional candy cane that make this time of year so special. It’s the season of giving, so we’ll be giving away prizes each week!

    How do you participate?

    • Share our InstaAdvent image on Instagram so we know you are participating in the challenge!
    • Take a pic following our theme of the day and tag #BHAdvent24 and @bustedhalo on all your posts!
    • If you’re not on Instagram, no worries! You can still participate in the fun by uploading your Advent photos to Twitter or Facebook, using the hashtag #BHAdvent24, and mentioning @bustedhalo.

    We can’t wait to see your photos! Have a blessed Advent journey!

     

    Busted Halo Advent Photo Challenge

  • More Than a Meal: The Holiness of Friendsgiving

    More Than a Meal: The Holiness of Friendsgiving

    It’s that time of year again — crunchy leaves, pumpkin spice, wishbones, and pecan pie. Thanksgiving is around the corner, and what better way to celebrate than by hosting a Friendsgiving feast? 

    While I love gathering around the table with my family, one of the things I look forward to most during the year is Friendsgiving. I wait for it like a child waits for Christmas. I love the fall decor, the hearty dishes, and the liveliness, but most of all, I love seeing all my beautiful friends in one place — the way we would like to be more often but can’t always manage with busy schedules. 

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    I first celebrated Friendsgiving a couple of years ago with a small group of my girlfriends. We each brought a dish, and dinner went late into the night as we moved from the kitchen to the patio to the living room, talking and laughing all the while. 

    What I took away from that night is that Friendsgiving is more than just a chance to catch up with friends. It’s a spiritual experience. Spending time with women who I usually only spoke to at parties and brunches brought a new sense of intimacy and gratefulness to our conversation, fostered by the intentionality of Friendsgiving. We were brought together not only because we are friends but also because we are grateful that we’re friends. 

    Friendsgiving reminds us of our blessings and renews our commitment to our friendship — to serving and lifting each other up. (Thessalonians 5:11) This can strengthen our existing connections or create new ones, cultivating a spirit of togetherness and gratitude that ultimately points towards God. 

    The Catechism of the Catholic Church says that friendship is a “direct demand of human and Christian brotherhood” (CCC 1939) and the Bible highlights the importance of meaningful relationships (Romans 12:10). These themes lie at the core of Friendsgiving! Christianity has a long history of feasting as an opportunity to come together and celebrate the goodness of the Lord, remembering the blessings he has given us. 

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    In Christian theology, feasting with friends lives out the biblical principle of community. The Bible points to fellowship among believers: “They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts… and the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved” (Acts 2:46-47). How inspiring to imagine the earliest Christians sharing meals as a form of praising God! Friendsgiving is a present-day manifestation of this practice — a modern way to break bread together. 

    There are several things to focus on when gathering to share a meal and give thanks. At the heart of any Thanksgiving meal is gratitude. Beginning your festivities with a prayer of thanksgiving is a wonderful way to acknowledge God’s provision and the gift of your loved ones. As you savor each dish, appreciate the hands that went into its preparation. I always make macaroni and cheese, my favorite childhood meal, and there are certain dishes I know friends will bring that everyone loves, like their signature macarons or the jalapeño poppers they only make once a year. 

    Encourage your guests to share what they’re thankful for to foster an atmosphere of warmth and connection. I have started a tradition at Friendsgiving where we pass around flowers and whoever holds the bouquet shares what they’re grateful for.

    Incorporating Catholic symbolism into your decor and menu is another beautiful way to remember why you’re gathered together. Set the tables with candles to create ambiance as well as to represent the light of Christ. Evergreen wreaths are a lovely symbol of eternal life, while sprigs of rosemary add fragrance and represent remembrance. Holy cards or Bible verses at each setting add a thoughtful touch, and of course, a bouquet of autumnal flowers never hurts!

    RELATED: Food for Thought: How I’m Approaching Thanksgiving Differently This Year

    As for the feast itself — create a seasonal menu that celebrates the blessings of the harvest season. Dishes of roasted root vegetables, sprouts, cranberries, pomegranates, and pumpkin soup paired with warm beverages like mulled wine or cider make for a cozy feast. Encourage guests to bring dishes from their cultural background or family traditions, creating a tapestry of diversity that demonstrates the inclusive nature of hospitality. For dessert, you could include soul cakes, a traditional All Souls’ Day treat alongside your favorite pie. This balance of Catholic tradition and seasonal celebration will create a memorable event for your guests. 

    Most importantly, foster an atmosphere of hospitality. Open your home to friends without family nearby and extend this generosity beyond your immediate circle by inviting newcomers to your community. Perhaps invite someone who might otherwise be alone, or donate to a local food bank. Friendsgiving isn’t about one lavish meal; it’s a spirit of gratitude and love that extends beyond the day. Generosity and hospitality are pillars of Christianity — the act of opening your home not only strengthens community bonds, but also creates a space where thankfulness is openly expressed, mirroring the biblical command to “give thanks in all circumstances” (1 Thessalonians 5:18) .

    Friendsgiving is more than just a festive gathering — it is a meaningful expression of Christian community and all that it stands for. Whether you’re hosting a Friendsgiving feast or attending one, use the time to reflect on the goodness in your life and give thanks to the Lord. In doing so, you transform a simple meal into a celebration of faith, hospitality, and the blessings we’ve been given.

  • 4 Things You Need to Know About #GivingTuesday

    4 Things You Need to Know About #GivingTuesday

    #1 What is it?

    #GivingTuesday is a global day of giving to kick off the giving season on the Tuesday following Thanksgiving, Black Friday, and Cyber Monday. We have a day for giving thanks. We have two for getting deals. Now, we have Giving Tuesday (December 3 this year), a day dedicated to giving back. Whether it’s some of your time, a donation, act of kindness, or the power of your voice in your local community, GIVE!

    #2 When did Giving Tuesday start?

    Giving Tuesday began in 2012 and has grown into a global movement that celebrates and supports giving.

    #3 What sort of an impact does Giving Tuesday have?

    In 2023, Giving Tuesday raised more than $3.1 billion in philanthropic donations in the United States alone. In 2023, donations made to Busted Halo on Giving Tuesday topped $47,000! Because of your Giving Tuesday generosity, we were able to have an even greater impact in 2024 and reach people like never before through new articles, videos, podcasts, and other ministry resources.

    #4 How do I get involved?

    This one’s easy: GIVE. Here at Busted Halo, we’re kicking off our Holiday Fund Drive, and generous donors have offered to combine efforts and match any donation you make on Giving Tuesday. If you appreciate the spiritual nourishment you get here at Busted Halo — through our website, videos, podcasts, radio show, and, coming soon, our Advent Calendar — then we hope you’ll consider making a gift. Busted Halo’s spiritual outreach has a particular urgency at this time of year. While the rest of the world is focused on the commercialism of Christmas, we bring you back to the true meaning and spiritual importance of the Advent and Christmas seasons. These meaningful experiences can’t be bought on Black Friday or Cyber Monday. Join us in sharing the Catholic faith joyfully! Donate on Giving Tuesday!

     

  • Virtual Remembrance Retreat

    Virtual Remembrance Retreat

    With All Souls’ Day, November 2, Catholic parishes and other faith communities begin a month-long remembrance for all who have died. In the same spirit, we share this retreat as a way to remember the people in your life who have died. This virtual retreat offers a chance for you to reflect more deeply on what they have taught you, as well as an opportunity to offer thanks and determine how their legacy will guide your life going forward. Click here to open/download a PDF of the retreat.

    Getting started

    Many faith communities have a Book of Remembrance in which people are invited to write the names of those who have died.

    Begin your retreat by writing down the names of the people you would like to remember. In order to not overwhelm yourself, list no more than five names per retreat. Write these names in your journal, on a writing pad, or on a small note board so they remain visible to you for a few days. Next to each name, write a two-word description of that person. No more than two words for now, you can write more later if you’d like.

    Here’s an example:

    Michael Davis – faithful friend.

    Finally, light a candle in memory of the one(s) you have named as a sign of hopefulness

    Prayer (based on Numbers 6:24-26)

    “The Lord bless you and keep you! The Lord let his face shine upon you, and be gracious to you! The Lord look upon you kindly and give you peace!”

    Gracious God, Author of Life and Victor over Death, at this time of remembrance, I ask that you continue to bless and keep (say the names you listed above) who are now at rest in death. Smile upon them and give them your grace. Please continue to bless and keep me as well as any who were a part of their lives. May their rest be peaceful as you show them your kindness. Through Christ our Lord, Amen.

    Giving thanks

    For each person that you’ve listed, speak or write something about that person for which you are thankful.

    Reflection

    Based on your relationship with each person you have named, select one of the four ways below to reflect more deeply. Your reflection will be structured as a conversation for you to have either with the person you have named, with yourself, or with God. Conduct the conversation as you wish (writing, speaking, praying). Go at your own pace and challenge yourself to move a bit beyond your comfort zone for the sake of healing, integrity, and insight.

    “I am still grieving over you.”

    • Talk about what you are feeling specifically at this stage of your grieving.
    • Talk about what you are doing to cope with your grieving. What support do you have?
    • Talk about what you hope for in the midst of the grieving.
    • Pray for comfort in this time of grief.

    “I really need/want to let go of something concerning you.”

    • Talk about why you need or want to forgive the person you have named.
    • Talk about what you are doing to help you let go. What support do you have?
    • Talk about any insights you have gained that might explain why the person you have named hurt or offended you.
    • Make a statement of your intention to let go and move on.
    • Pray for the strength to show mercy.

    “I wish I could have said this to you.”

    • Talk about what the person you have named means to you.
    • Talk about what specifically you wanted to say to them and why.
    • Talk about what you hoped for in your relationship with the person you named.
    • Pray for your peace of mind and heart.

    “I hope you are at peace.”

    • Talk about what the person you have named went through.
    • Talk about what you hope the person experiences in this time of rest.
    • Talk about how your perspectives and outlooks have grown in virtue because of knowing the
    • person you have named.
    • Pray for a peaceful rest for the person you have named.

    Legacy

    Here is an opportunity for you to mention what the person you have named has taught you and what you would like to carry forward in your own life. Use the guidelines below for creating your legacy statement:

    In the course of their life, (names from above) taught me to ___________. In gratitude and hope, I plan to live out their lesson by ___________, with the help of God.

    Closing prayer

    Excellent Lord, you are the God of the living and of the dead. In the moment of remembering (names from above) who have died, I take this time to commend so many who have died to your loving care. Especially remember those who have died alone, children who have died, those who have died from disease and poverty, and those who have died as a result of war or violence. May they truly rest in peace.

    For the ones who loved them, give comfort. Let them know your loving care through your presence and the presence of friends and community. May those who are grieving be touched by tangible expressions of consolation and support.

    God, in your grace, show those who have died your loving mercy. And, in your wisdom, let their legacies help us live better lives. Amen.

    Conclusion

    Here are a few suggestions for your ongoing remembrance:

    • Write the names of those you are remembering in your parish’s Book of Remembrance.
    • Light a candle in a church for the ones you have named in this retreat.
    • Create a page in your journal for each person you have named. Add photos and even funeral programs to your entries.
    • Use the legacy portion of this retreat with others. Plan a time with family or mutual friends to celebrate and remember the legacy of the deceased.

     

    Originally published on November 1, 2017.